First Mother's Day
Happy belated Mother's Day to all of my mommy readers and their mommies, and mommy's, mommies!!! So you know your a mommy when... the Mother's Day Facebook advertisement made you cry. Anybody? No? How about the Johnson & Johnson ad? Both...okay... or maybe it's my pregnancy hormones.
Yesterday was Mother's Day, and it was my very first year celebrating it as a mother myself! Last year I was still pregnant and missed it by a week or so. Or did I? The husband seemed to think that it didn't "count" until we had baby and I was actually parenting it/her first. What do you think? Do you celebrate Mother's Day if you are newly preggo?
This year though, was official. I had made it through a year, my first year, caring for this little human being and I managed to keep her fed and happy and growing and learning so far! It has been tough work. It has been FUN! There have been emotional days and tiring days and easy days, and after experiencing said days, almost 365 of them, I truly have a different appreciation for my own mom that I never had before. You can try to empathize and understand what they go through, and it must be so difficult for men, but when you actually give birth and go through a little bit of mothering, even just a year, you "get" how hard it is. It's true that you join a club of sorts. How rewarding mothering is, but how hard it is! I always tell my single girlfriends or friends who are dating who have baby fever this: be absolute damn sure whoever you decide to have a baby with is 100% on board, if not wanting a baby even more than you, because you will need that partner and support, and you will need the physical hands and the emotional heart and everything about it. It truly takes two. I am blessed to have that, but having experienced it with a very hands on, involved father also has given me a deeper appreciation for single parents too! So, after having gone through being a mommy nearly a year now with my first born, (her big ONE is this weekend!), the thing I question is, "How in the hell did she do this four times?!"
When you become a momma, you live through the thankless things mommas do. The cleaning, the feeding, the cleaning, the feeding, the schedule that seems like groundhog day sometimes and the sacrifices and changes you make in your single girl lifestyle, whether you welcomed the changes or not, they're real. It may not hit you the day you bring your bundle home, but it eventually does. The jolt that forever, forever, your life is changed and this life you created depends on you, needs you to teach them, show them everything and love them unconditionally. When it hits you, you are thankful. So thankful for your mother or caretaker who did the same for you, all that you are doing now, they did for you to get you to this point.
So, whether you are a new momma today, for the first time, or a momma of four who is now spoiling, or raising, grand children, great grand children, an adopted momma, a foster momma, a momma to a four legged friend, or now parenting your ailing, elderly parents, happy Mother's Day to you. It's never a day too late or a year too soon to say it in my book. It's always a good time to appreciate her, love her and tell her so.
I was very blessed and thankful to have a wonderful day first Mother's Day holiday spent with my two gifts; husband and Remy. I couldn't ask for a more thoughtful and loving partner who recognizes the mother in me and I am so thankful to God and blessed for the beautiful daughter we have brought into this world. Oh, and if you missed my Instagram announcement, I suppose I had a third gift tucked away with me yesterday too, another baby girl!
As always... thanks for reading!