Solo Time with Your Firstborn
There's something special about spending one-on-one time with your first babe. It keeps getting better and better. The solo time with EACH of my girls has been such a catalyst in balance for me personally lately. I think we can up the time even more, but for now, I am savoring my Saturday mornings at least with my firstborn.
She often times runs away from the camera and tells me, "No more pictures," but when its just the two of us, she really takes on the star performer role and runs with it- literally. She art directed herself in the The Market cafe, shoving her little heart-shaped visage into that matching heart-shaped iron chair back. "Take a picture, momma!" She was holding up her water cup to her ear and pretending it was a phone at one point. She also did tell me, "You don't know when to stop, do you?" Okay...
But she's right. I can't help it! Her little lips and the last of her cheeks that are just melting away as she inches toward five... Her little calves poking out of her dresses, those little fingers with chipped polish, those sparkly brown eyes! No. I cannot. Stop. I am so very blessed and I just love her so so much. She is a very special girl and just radiates happiness!
She is also a voice of reason. If you ever were wrestling with something and you just had to hear that little angel on your shoulder to lead you the right way, that's this girl. Sometimes I'll rattle things aloud that I am tossing around upstairs and she will always be the Julie Andrews in the room answering, "Well, maybe you should apologize, " or "mom, that wasn't very nice." Her inherent honesty and empathetic nature make you forget she just lost diapers a year and a half ago.
She loves standing on our coffee table and commanding our attention and signing original songs. She lives for creating and will never turn down the offer to paint. If she could wear her rainbow tutu or her new Valentine's dress with the tutu skirt everyday, she would, in fact she lvoes to come home from activities and changes right into that tutu with her "teenager tights," (a pair of leggings with a doodle print on them,) and her gray tee shirt. She is showing us everyday her maturity and independence. Yesterday morning she combed her hair all by herself. Saturday she told me to close my eyes and held my hand, brought me upstairs and revealed she had cleaned her room and her toy mess without me asking. I showered her with praise and made sure to let her know I was grabbing my camera to capture it (if you caught it on Insta Stories) and when I was taking a little video of her good work she whispered this, "it was perseverance..." If she takes cleaning up Shopkins this seriously, I need to buckle up, haha! I mentioned having to clean the bathroom yesterday and she chirped at the chance to clean my mirror. Of course the cleaning of the bathroom did not happen, I lazed instead while she and Arlo did yoga to Cosmic Kids on YouTub- SO GOOD guys! And so my mirror is still smudgy too. Oh, yoga! This is another new request of Remy's. The other day she demanded I pull out my yoga mat for her and she changed into little shorties and a tee and so I didn't want to disappoint her with a very choppy flow from me so I found Cosmic Kids Yoga stories on YouTube and put it on the TV for her. She did yoga two days in a row and its the cutest thing to watch.
We had absolutely GLORIOUS warm weather Saturday and soaked it up with a scoot to the nearest park with neighbors. On the way, Arlo hit a crack and stumbled, Remy ran back to check on her. She is intuitive to her sister's sensitive character and often appeases her by letting her choose the cartoon, or take a turn first, or have the whatever it is being questioned. I don't want Remy to take a back seat to stronger personalities, but I want her to continue to pick up on difficult behaviors and learn to communicate through them and channel the dialogue, not to passify the situation, but comprehend it and command it. She is learning communication cues and social normes with such rapid fire, I only hope I can keep up and be an unbiased and morale compass for her as she navigates it all. She's already better than I.
I am so excited to see what 2018 brings for this little one. I live for each day I get to see what she wants from this world and what she does with it. Always in prayer for navigating motherhood and this sacred responsibility I've been gifted.
Here's to more one-on-one time with each of my girls, AND also their Baba. Feeling extra balanced starting this week off because I also had a date with husband last Friday night and we had one of the BEST dinners ever and followed it with the ballet....thank you husband, and thank you for not letting us cancel it. You guys ever have a fight before a pre-planned date night? What do you do? I am glad we powered through like it didn't happen and had a really great night as a couple and not as a set of parents, but as a guy and a girl. After all, this was one of THOSE things I mentioned out loud in front of this dear girl, mentioning that maybe our sitter would not be coming over that night. She asked, "Why?" I said, well I wasn't sure if we would be up for a date because we had an argument and she responded with a shrug in her voice, "Ahh... just go on the date mom." Thanks my girl.
I HER face so much! And this dress....MUST get it on her a few more times...Here she wore it a while back to get pie!
Wearing: Remy is wearing a dress by Bobo Choses, Zara tights, a bow and necklace from Target and Spanish label shoes.